What is counselling?

Counselling is a talking therapy between an individual and a trained counsellor who is there to listen and focus solely on their client.


A client will approach a counsellor hoping to work through and change a situation they are facing in their life that is causing them distress or perhaps longer standing issues that feel overwhelming and are taking over their life. 


It takes place in a safe, confidential and comfortable environment where you will be invited to explore the issues that are causing problems . By bringing these issues out into the open they can often become clearer and after understanding your response and feelings surrounding them, real beneficial change can occur.


I work in an integrative counselling style. This means that I will draw on various different counselling theories to help you as best I can. My primary method is ‘person centred’ counselling. Person centred counselling works from the belief that all of us, as unique individuals, have the inner ability to understand and work through our own problems, viewing them from our own personal perspective. After all, no one knows you better than yourself. A counsellor therefore won’t offer you direct advice; they will merely support, assist and gently guide you through exploring your feelings and foster new ways of looking at situations. Although a counsellor can empathise with what you are experiencing, only you will know truly how your issues really feel. Understanding our feelings is the secret to finding a way through problems.


A counsellor is like a mirror - they reflect back to you what you reveal to them. Sometimes these reflections may be hard to accept, (counselling isn’t easy) and sometimes they may show you something you weren't aware of but ultimately this outside perspective can facilitate real positive change and enable you take control of your life. 

The counselling process

I work from a relaxed garden room at my home near Aylesford in Kent. There is ample parking and discrete access.

Initial contact

During initial contact I will invite you to talk about what is troubling you. We can then arrange a mutually convenient time for a first, free no-obligation session at my garden room. Counselling can be short term with a previously agreed fixed number of sessions or ‘open ended’ where no particular end date is set. However it is always important to constantly review where you are emotionally during a series of counselling sessions.

First session

In the first session I will invite you to explain more about the issues that are causing you concern and can introduce myself and the process. At the end of the session I will have an idea if I am able to help you, and you hopefully have a sense of whether you feel I would be a good counsellor for you. If you would like to continue, we will agree a focus for the work and arrange a series of sessions, ideally at a regular day/time slot. I would also ask you to sign a contract agreeing that we can work together.

Cost

Each session costs £45 and I do require at least 24 hours of cancellation otherwise the full fee is payable. I do offer some low-cost options if you are on benefits or have a low income. I would be happy to discuss these with you during our first session.

Session reviews

We will have regular reviews of our work during the sessions where you can decide where you feel you are emotionally and how you would like the work to continue.

Improve your life

Hopefully, once you have decided our time working together should come to an end, you will be ready to face life with positivity and hope, complete with the tools to cope.

It is the client who knows what hurts, what directions to go, what problems are crucial,
what experiences have been deeply buried.

Carl Rogers, founder of the Person Centred approach to counselling